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"Playing with Power: Then & Now" - Cléo Dubois with Yossie Silverman

  • Blowbuddies 933 Harrison St San Francisco, CA, 94107 United States (map)


The jump from mild to wild requires trust, parity, creative timing, subtle on-going negotiations, emotional risk-taking, and appreciation of energetic exchanges. There are also the responsibilities of safety, skills, and limits. 

As leatherfolk, the archetypes we embody in our erotic personas contribute greatly to making our scenes soar. Cléo Dubois, longtime friend of the men's leather/kink/BDSM community, will share with you what she has discovered in her 30 years of playing, illustrated by many pictures from 1981 till now.

Whether you identify as a Top, Dominant, switch, bottom, submissive or versatile player, you’ll examine what’s behind your love of leather, BDSM, sensation play, training, surrender, switching. Knowing who you are and what you want are keys to greater connection and connected hot and versatile play.

Of course a spontaneous sizzling scene will accompany Cleo's presentation.

CLÉO DUBOIS considers BDSM a lifelong passion. A Dominant Woman who also enjoys bottoming, a community player and ritualist, she believes that consensual power-play is a valid path to self-discovery, intimacy, sexual healing and ecstatic sexuality.

Out in SM in the early 80s, and inspired by such fellow-travelers as Cynthia Slater, Joseph Bean, Mark Thompson and her life partner, Fakir, she found her voice as an ethical kink presenter at leather conferences such as Thunder in the Mountains, LIL (Living in Leather), welcomed by groups like Outcasts, the Society of Janus, the National Leather Association, the Exiles.

In 1995 she founded the Academy of S/M Arts ( and in 2002 offered the first Erotic Dominance Intensive for Women. With Eve Minax and Selena Raven, she now holds weekend Intensives for Dominant Women, for Dominant Men, and for those who Switch, several times a year at the San Francisco Citadel. In 2010 an intimate weekend for BDSM couples was added.

Her award-winning docufilm, The Pain Game, noted for its authenticity in embodying the spirit of connected SM play, has become a classic. Her writing has been published in numerous non-fiction lifestyle books, starting with Different Loving, and notably in a monthly column for Gloria Brame's “20 Up SM project” on her own BDSM relationships and polyamorous lifestyle. Her perspective on body rituals appears in the recently released Spirit of Desire: Personal Explorations of Sacred Kink, edited by Lee Harrington.

In 2008, Cléo was selected a Leather Marshal of the San Francisco Pride Celebration & Parade, and also received the Living Leather Heritage award from the Southwest Leather Conference.

YOSSIE SILVERMAN, the Blacksteel guy, is certainly no stranger to the men's community, where he is loved and respected as piercer, leatherman, shaman.

LDG programs start promptly at 7:30 p.m. Leather, gear or fetish wear always encouraged, never required. No admission charge. Open to all adults. We advise arriving early as seating is limited.