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Playing With Pain — Hardy Haberman


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Playing With Pain — Hardy Haberman

  • Mr. S Studio 385a 8th St San Francisco, CA, 94103 United States (map)

Join us for an evening with Hardy Haberman as he talks about pain and how to use it.

Call it an intense stimulation, unpleasant sensations, or a cathartic catalyst. Whatever you call it the reality is pain. It can be a motivating force or a consequence but in the world of SM it is a key to unlocking some of the most amazing experiences imaginable. We will explore the physiological effects of pain and how to precisely inflict it for maximum erotic potential. Included will be a ritualistic scene designed to take the participants into an altered state through the use of intense stimulation. Not for the squeamish, but it will be enjoyable for all including those just observing.

HARDY HABERMAN has been active in the leather community since the mid-70s and a member of many BDSM/Fetish organizations, including Dallas Motorcycle Club, Leather Rose Society, National Leather Association (NLA)-Dallas, the (Dallas) Discipline Corps, and Inquisition-Dallas, of which he is a founding member. Considering himself a "Pain Technologist," he specializes in CBT and has an unusual fondness for clips, clamps and clothespins, as well as more esoteric SM play.

Professionally he is a marketing specialist and filmmaker. His documentary on the leather lifestyle, "LEATHER," has won numerous awards and appeared in festivals around the world; and his latest film, "Out of the Darkness: The Reality of SM," is currently being used by health care professionals around the world.

Outside work, Hardy is a gay activist, author and speaker on aspects of the SM/Leather scene. His books The Family Jewels: a Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment (Greenery Press) and More Family JewelsPlaying With Pain, and Soul of a Second Skin (Nazca Plains Publishing) are available at bookstores everywhere.

Hardy currently serves as Chairperson of the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance and is a regular columnist for the Dallas Voice, commenting on politics, leather and the LGBT community. He was awarded NLA-International's "Man of the Year" award in 1999 and the NLA-I Lifetime Achievement award in 2007.  In 2010, the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force honored him with its Leather Leadership award.

Since April of 1995, Hardy and his boy Patrick have been living together in Dallas with their feline Mistress Elvira and troublemaker Jack-The-Cat.

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