What is SFLDG?
Founded in 1996, SFLDG has an educational mission with a once-a-month presentation of a kink/fetish/leather/BDSM skill or topical discussion, interview, or panel relevant to kinky guys and their allies. Every month, 60-150 people join us for 2 hours to meet new people, learn, and have fun. Come with a friend, or drop in on your own. With a huge audience of the most interesting folks in the Bay Area, we tend to be the best place to meet and socialize and hang out with other kinksters. You'll be welcome.
In 1984 the controversy over bathhouses and the AIDS crisis, sexual freedom and public health erupted into a political battle. With a skyrocketing increase of AIDS deaths, a fight within the gay community, city hall, and the medical community erupted, fueling passions on all sides. A vibrant sex culture collapsed, and the aftermath affects us 30 years later.
Humiliation scenes involve some intense psychological dynamics, and come in a variety of expressions. On one hand, humiliation can mean "putting someone in their place" - protocols and actions that reinforce a submissive or beta position. On the other hand, humiliation can mean playing with embarrassment and shame. This presentation will discuss shame, disgust, and embarrassment - and why some are attracted to this kind of scene. The presentation will also discuss the ways in which humiliation can reinforce a power exchange dynamic. We will also discuss emotional triggers, negotiating boundaries, and aftercare. We will also demonstrate some of the dynamics and dissect a humiliation scene.
A guided tour through the history of Folsom's Dirty Little Brother, Up Your Alley fair and it's role in the transition of leather titles from promoting porn, parties and beer to fundraising vehicles.
A question about "old leather traditions" and "houses" came up on someone else's FB page and I wrote this advice: There are no "old leather traditions." There are behaviors that individuals and small, isolated groups developed...
A few years ago, your consensual kinks—being spanked, fetishizing feet, the desire to be tied up while having sex, and anything else your perverted little mind can come up with—could have cost you everything...
What questions would you like to hear at our January 2015 Program ARE LEATHER TITLES NECESSARY?
Is an age-specific social group exclusionary? Are guys in one age bracket discriminating against men in another age range because they want to hang out with guys their own age?
That may have been what made it so difficult to see where meth was taking me. I didn't meet the strung out addicts we hear so much about. The guys I met and played with weren't covered in scabs or depleted looking. They were in good shape, gregarious, and sexy as hell. Like my friend, T.